Fear of conflict lengthens feedback loops.
We don’t bring up the little things because we want to be agreeable. But then when we finally decide we need to speak up, the feels have compounded.
Better is to embrace little conflicts. Get them out there, early and often. Don’t be afraid of them. You’ll get better at navigating complex situations with particular people and in general. With particular people, you’ll start to understand where you disagree and where you can and can’t find consensus. And in general, you’ll start to understand how to get to that place, with different kinds of people.