Individualism vs Collectivism

Individualism says we should value self-reliance and independence. I find myself pulled in this direction because I deeply believe in focusing on what I can control, that the only thing we truly control is our own actions.

Collectivism says we should value community and interdependence. I find myself pulled in this direction because I deeply believe that serving others is fundamental to happiness and fulfillment.

Can both be good things? Strong proponents of each seem to act like these ideas are mutually exclusive. I’m not so sure that’s true.