If you have to lose in order for me to win, and I have to lose in order for you to win, somebody’s gonna be having some feels. Probably both of us.
Fear: We’re both afraid of losing. If it looks like you’re losing, you fear the consequences. If it looks like you’re winning, you might start to feel that you have more to lose and your fear might grow because of that.
Anger: When we lose, we get angry. Especially if we see unfairness. And losing might make us see unfairness that isn’t actually there.
Aggression: Your efforts to win might harm your opponent, and vice versa.
Envy: When you lose and I win, you might have envy for me.
Guilt: When you win and see I’ve lost, you might feel guilty about our different consequences.
In a win-lose situation, even when you win the game, there can be things you lose in the greater game.
